Asking for help.
I feel like this is a topic that is extremely uncomfortable based on your lived experience, your upbringing, or certain limitations in the here and now such as “I’m barely keeping food on the table, let alone spending money on myself for therapy or coaching”.
Been there!
I’m literally in a moment right now where I’m considering using my very last money to hire a business coach to revamp the strategy of my entire business, because, what used to “work”, doesn’t seem to any longer.
The thing I keep coming back to is that because we have beautiful free will as human beings, we CAN do anything on our own, but must we? I’m in a moment where I can’t see the forest through the trees - I think that’s how it goes, so it helps to bring in someone to walk alongside me and to point out what I’m unable to realize, or simply a 2 heads are better than 1 situation.
You’ve heard the old saying, “know when to leave the job, the party, the relationship?” That’s the truth! Here are a few sure fire ways to know when your body is trying to get your attention, to take a pause toward what may feel out of alignment -
You get the Sunday scaries, but not just on Sundays…
You just “know” that where you are is no longer where you want to be, but the “how” seems not only daunting, but perhaps impossible
You become ill, either in your gut or your head when you’re around certain people/places/things that used to feel “fine”
You feel lost or stuck, having no idea where to go next
Is this an exhaustive list? Of course not, it’s just to give you an idea and an inkling that your body already knows - and of course since our brains are meant to keep us safe, not happy, we will often override these “knowings”.
The “how” to understand who/what is trying to get your attention in your body is to practice discernment. Jot down your non-negotiables of what it takes to be “you” in this very moment - then do a comparison of where you feel the discomfort in your body in relation to your non-negotiables.
While it may not feel good to start making changes, nor serve your very real human experience and responsibilities, is there anything, by any degree that you could shift…maybe it’s beginning to leave work on time, maybe it’s creating an hour for only you each day to allow yourself to do/say anything you want, maybe it’s going on a solo trip to get your favorite treat and sitting still allowing yourself to enjoy it rather than rushing through it to get “back”.
Again, while you CAN create these for yourself, how easy is it to talk yourself out of it or push it off to another day? A coach and a therapist are the best investments you can make for yourself right now. The entire goal is to get to the best next step, and you get to create that for what you have capacity for alongside someone that has a vested interest in your wellbeing.
Asking for help, choosing you is actually the entire “how”…what is holding you back from asking? Do you trust yourself that you will make more money, tenfold what you invest in you to feel into your favorite self? Do you trust yourself to free the judgement and blocks from things you were taught over your lifetime? Do you trust yourself to challenge yourself when limitations come through such as asking, “who said?” and “is that still true?”
I will invest in a business coach because I do trust myself that I am building something never-before-experienced, I do trust my abilities, I do trust my instincts that I know that everything is always unfolding for my highest or greater good.
I trust. Do you?