Creating your okayness.
In your heart of hearts, in your soul of souls, is there any part of you - by any degree that KNOWS that no matter what, you’re going to be ok? That may seem like a tall order in this exact time and space, to wholeheartedly trust unknown or uncertainty - but that is actually how you create your okayness.
We’re taught that if we don’t think of others, or do whatever we can to help others, that we’re bad people. But, is that true? What if we’ve only been focused on the okayness of others, that we actually aren’t ok?
So, specifically, how do we do this? Let’s begin with the fact that lifelong conditioning (in our life but also that of our lineage) lives in our bodies, but also in our brains - our brains exist to keep us safe, not happy. So when the notion that you aren’t going to be ok, or you get a case of the “what if’s” starts to creep in, you might consider what it would take to check in with your heart.
Is it your brain or your heart that is creating this moment of not okayness? That will give you insight into the root source, and if it’s truly yours or if it’s something you’ve been taught (or overwhelmed by during this time of existence in paradigm shifts).
Isn’t it true that you are a human being with free will? Isn’t it true that you have agency over your thoughts and feelings? Isn’t it true that you CAN do and think anything, but that it can feel impossible when either the outside world feels upside down and that you have physical evidence from the past that shows you’re not ok?
All of the above gets to be true at once, altogether. Sort it out, one by one and check in with your internal guidance system - what is yours to own or heal, and also what is absolutely true in your own personal, unique blueprint of your soul and why you came here. What is your ethos? Is what is coming in aligning with that ethos or does it feel icky or sticky - is it something you don’t want in your awareness?
Either way, you CAN choose to have discernment in the moment that these thoughts or feelings come in - do I want to feel this or think this, or do I want to shift into something that is helpful toward my pathway forward…for instance, when a “what if” comes in, try replacing it with “even if” - this can create a moment of clarity that provides you with options, not simply a “if this does or doesn’t happen, then this will occur”. This creates flexibility for your truth center to come forth easier, while facing what you’ve been taught.
You create more of what you believe, so if you can allow yourself to think or feel something that DOES feel good, that feels hopeful and toward where you want to be - breathe life into that and consider how to create more of that feeling every single day. You GET to feel okay, you GET to feel safe, and you GET to create it for yourself and it starts with being willing to discern what feels aligned/good and what doesn’t feel aligned/good.
If it helps, make notes on this - give yourself the pause and the space in between the “what” is coming in and place it in a column. Then, assess the columns, what do you want more of and what do you want less of? This is how you can begin to create more what you do want and less of what you don’t want.
This isn’t an exercise of only wanting to feel positivity - you must feel your feels to see where they’re coming from and what you need to move through them, while again, creating more of what you do want to feel/experience.
It gets to be a balance, and the goal is not to feel “only” okayness all day every day, it’s simply to have an overarching KNOWING that you are ok, and that you will always be ok on the macro level. This allows you to begin meeting life where it takes you, to create a pause, and to assess your okayness based on the unfolding before you.
You can.
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