Finding Your People
We are all (mostly) taught that blood is thicker than water, that you should always be polite, and that being well liked is a virtue of success in this life…
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Do you allow any room for yourself when you no longer vibe with your people, or that you feel those closest to you are in fact, not your people e.g. family?
The old paradigm has us feeling beholden to anyone and everyone outside of ourselves first, then perhaps to consider ourselves. The new paradigm is asking us to choose us first, to stand firm in our light (unabashedly and unapologetically) to be able to feel into the fullest expression of ourselves. That is “how” we find our soul’s mission, or remember it. To be so bold and brave in our unique brilliance that your people find you and those who are not, simply fade away.
So why is it so hard to let people go that we no longer vibe with? Well, any ending feels like a loss, which will likely invoke our heart chakra and grief - which is part of the reason we came to have a human experience…to feel the full spectrum of emotion. It’s likely that we’re worried what others will say or think, that we’ve changed (and not for the good), etc. but, honestly, does that matter? And if you say yes, it matters to me, then great - feel into why it matters, what will change within you if what someone thinks about you ends up being true?
More than one thing is true at once e.g. you don’t vibe with someone or you no longer feel good around someone AND you have fear around how to let that lifelong relationship go. So my question is, do you believe that it’s your responsibility to force yourself through something simply to benefit someone else? Who taught you to do that?
We can feel beholden to only ourselves, choose ourselves, and that is actually the way you are able to create capacity for people, places, and things that you do care about. When you are allowing yourself to feel misaligned, you are actually choosing misalignment which is a different frequency of what you may be trying to create in your life.
This is actually how we create more of what we don’t actually want - and sometimes it’s a lesson in our pathway, we will continue being shown this until we navigate differently. I am continuously shown people, places, and things that I don’t feel my best self in - that is my invitation to discern what I do want.
What could it look like for you, by any degree, to consider moving differently? What happens when you do? You create capacity, energy, and a vibration for exactly what you’re wanting in this life. You’ll see it in small glimmers at first, and then you realize that you simply need to call something into your mind or express desire and it’s within reach, already on its way to you.
When you are able to release or detach from what happens tomorrow (because there is only present), see how it feels in your body to honor your HELL YES - and allowing for things to be a no. Is it the sting of saying no and it’s not what you were taught, or is it the relief of advocating for yourself? Again, both can be true, and it takes your personal discernment to know what is true for you.
These days I get to choose, I get to discern, I get to move toward what I am creating. I’ve detached from anyone else’s expectation of me, I know what I’m here to do and I am focused on walking that path.
Activity - close your eyes and get into your body (literally visualize plasma or your organs etc), say something out loud that is true and also say something out loud that isn’t true - pay close attention to if/where anywhere in your body responds. There’s your truth center, start there.